Crowned

What every princess deserves is a respectable man (or partner).

Since I am personally into the male gender, I'll speak about that. But really, love is blind. I'm a true believer of that. Love whoever makes you happy.


Ok hi. I have lived my whole life in college on the sheer fact that I deserve to have a fairytale life, filled with rainbows and unicorns and a man who would swim across an alligator-filled moat to rescue me. Right....Not really. But I do think that I have lived in a way where I'm not bound to settle for anything less than what I deserve. Most girls are in search for their prince charming, and they will find a guy who is somewhat charming and somewhat nice and somewhat "acceptable". But ladies, come on, let's not just settle.

Of course, at first a guy may seem perfect. But you have to really make sure that you're not just being, again, blind to the fact that flaws do exist. I'm not saying it's necessary to find someone with zero flaws. That would be lame and boring. I'm saying, though, to find someone that will not hide their flaws to make themselves look perfect. Mankind isn't supposed to be perfect. A true man will lay it all out on his sleeve. And if you like him, go for it. If not, then raise your standard. There is nothing wrong with having standards, but there is something wrong with thinking you'll find  someone with all your requirements of being "a suitable man". I had to learn this. I would get upset when boys would almost qualify but then one thing about them irritated me. Dating is about learning to accept people because you can't change them or any of their traits.

I cannot even count how many times my dad has told me, "Amy, you can't change people." I would get upset because someone wouldn't want to make time for me or a person wouldn't seek help if they needed it. I just wanted to help and/or be loved. But, daddy is always right. No matter how much I want to, I don't even try to change people anymore. In high school, I would do that all the time. Tell someone how it was "supposed to be". But hey, that was my opinion, what gave me the right? So now, I completely understand that people are their own person. If they don't want to make me a priority when they're dating me then bye felicia; I don't need to make you a priority. If they don't want to seek help and get better, ok well I tried. I do my best, in this stage of my life, to remember that I am in charge of me and only me.

But back to prince charming. Here are some qualities that I think are acceptable for a girl to look for:

1. Being Jim from the office. Haha just kidding but actually he has a great quality of caring.

For example, Jim would do anything for Pam. Even when she was unavailable to date. That shows how much sincerity and care he had for her. Boys, watch the office and focus on Jim. He's bae.

2. They must make you laugh. Who cares if it's cheesy or dumb, if a guy can bring a smile to a girl's face, they are doing something right.

3. Be there for you when you are broken to pieces. Self-explanatory.

4. Be the one to sometimes plan dates or surprise her with tickets to the Red Sox. Okay that's a little specific, but no shame in giving your girl a surprise that will be a great memory.

5. Show interest. Don't let her do all the talking. Engage in the conversation; it'll mean a lot.

6. Be respectful of her friends and family. You should want to meet them and impress them. But also don't try too hard...be yourself.

7. Don't be afraid to share your feelings. I think most girls (definitely me) really appreciate that.

8. Feel bad if you have to cancel. If you don't, then you obviously don't care enough. See number 1.

9. Making her a priority doesn't mean abandoning your friends and your life. Let her be a part of your life too. I'm sure she wants to meet your friends. And you should want to show her off to them.

10. Be 100 % you. If she likes your quirks, you're winning the game. What's the point of liking someone if they aren't actually being themselves?


Those are a pretty solid ten. But even so, there are other things I see in daily life on the streets of Boston that make me love LOVE. At every Sox game I go to I see someone get engaged to on the jumbo tron. RT if you cry every time. I do. Then I see random dudes on the subway with flowers. Gorgeous bouquets. And I smile to myself. Those flowers are going to make someone so happy. I wish I could see the person's face when they receive them. It's really a small gesture to show someone how much you love them/how much you care.

Lastly, a serious shout out to those who have been married for a million years. You are doing something way right. *quick plug for my parents who just had their 30th wedding anniversary <3* I think that is so sweet. It takes a lot to go through many years of the best and worst times.

I know as I become older and things get more serious with guys, I will be able to really have someone that fills these qualities. But for now, I'm happy as a clam (even though I don't understand that saying). Being single really has taught me a lot about myself, as cliche as it sounds. I'm seriously Amy Joy right now. Emphasis on joy. I smile all the time and continuously feel happy. Having a companion is awesome, but being able to love yourself is the first ingredient necessary before you can love someone else.

So boys: treat your lady like the princess she is.
Girls: Keep your head up all the time, so your tiara doesn't fall off. Don't get discouraged if a guy isn't who you thought he was. There are more. I promise.


And... my favorite disney princess is Belle because she looks like me (brunette). But I'm also conflicted because I despise the color yellow and that's what her dress is. Life is hard.


peace.love.meep
-amyJOY